If you would like to be married in the Church then we would love to welcome you. Marrying in church has never been easier and we would love to welcome you to our church. To be married in church the UK you must be over 18 years of age, or 16 with your parents consent. If that is you then read on !
1. Call the Minister
Let us know your good news as soon as you can and we can help plan the wedding. Call the church office on 01234 342613 and ask for our Minister to be in touch. We will be as flexible as possible in helping you plan the wedding, it can take place on any day of the week, to be legal the wedding must just take place between 8am and 6pm. If you would like to print of a copy of our wedding details booking form
you may do so. You can then have this ready for when you see the Minister.
2. Sort out the Banns
For a marriage to be lawful and comply with UK Civil and Church law, Banns must be read out in church. Banns are just an announcement in the local parish church of your intention to marry and a chance for anyone to put forward a reason why the marriage may not lawfully take place. Banns need to be read in the parish where each of you lives as well as the parish church in which you are to be married, if that is somewhere else. You must have your banns read out in church for three Sundays during the three months before the wedding. This is often done over three consecutive Sundays but does not have to be.
You will probably wonder what all the fuss is about with Banns, it is an archaic practice which hardly makes any sense at all in modern times, but nevertheless we have to do it because it is ancient law. Once upon a time people would have know who the people were who were getting married and they would know if there was a valid reason to object to the marriage. The reasons are quite specific and include such things as the bride and groom are blood relatives, or already married to somebody else. It is nothing to worry about and it can be quite nice to come along to church and hear you name read out, so come along if you can.
If there is not enough notice given for the Banns to be read before the marriage is due to take place, or in the case of the marriage of people whose nationality is not British, or if one or both of you do not live in England, it is recommended that a Marriage Licence is given instead of Banns. This is especially recommended if there is any doubt as to the legal requirements of the home country of a non-British person for recognition of an English Church marriage. To find our more about the Marriage Licence click here
3. Having a Rehearsal
Near your wedding day, perhaps a day or two before, you will usually have the opportunity for a rehearsal with those who are involved.
4. The Big Day
Your Minister will do all he or she can to make the day a personal, meaningful and spiritual experience for you and your guests.
What is the service like ?
How much will the wedding cost?
Weddings are expensive as you will probably already have found out! The good news is that the actual wedding itself will probably be one of the cheaper items. The total cost for weddings is shown on the bottom of the booking form. We have tried to keep costs to a minimum but there are legal fees, payment to organist, verger, church etc., copyright fees. The fee must be paid prior to the day of the wedding either by cash, cheque or bacs. If paying by cheque we must allow time for this to clear, this is unfortunate but necessary as we have had some disappointments. There is a non-returnable Booking fee of £50 to confirm your wedding (this will be deducted from your final invoice.) Please make cheques payable to The PCC of the Ecclesiastical Parish of St Mark Bedford.
NOTE: Your wedding is not confirmed until the booking fee has been paid and the church reserves the right to re-allocate your booking.
In 2017 the total cost of a church wedding, including organist was as follows. The current fee can always be checked online - just type Church of England Wedding fees into Google to see the current table of fees.
Legal Fees (Paid to Diocese) £193
Legal Fees (Paid to Church) £231
Banns Certificate £13
Publication of Banns (Paid to Diocese) £28
Organist Fees £80
What do I do about flowers?
It is always a good idea to brighten up the church with some flowers for your wedding, although there is no need to be extravagant. The procedure will vary depending upon which church you choose in which to be married. We are fortunate to have people who will advise you and are prepared to make arrangements for you to your specifications at a reasonable cost. If you wish to have flowers please telephone Miss Marion Prior on 303254. She will be delighted to discuss your colours and ideas with you, it may be that somebody else is to be married on the same day and special arrangements can be made to share costs and to match colour schemes. Should you decide not to have flowers or to have a florist or friend make arrangements you must still telephone, so that these two ladies know what is going on. Please telephone now - do not wait until closer to the wedding.
When should we have a rehearsal?
A rehearsal is held in the church for the couple usually the week before the marriage. Please telephone the Minister to arrange a date and time. At the rehearsal you should try to have the Best man, Bridesmaids and the person who is 'giving away' the Bride present. This is a time to run through the service and put you all at ease.
Reading from Scripture
The service includes a reading from the Bible, often 1 Corinthians 13 or John Chapter 2 are used. If you would like to ask a member of the family or a friend to read this then please do so and tell the minister.
Bridesmaids and Page Boy
Some people have many bridesmaids and a page boy, however you may not wish to have any at all. Bridesmaids are there to tend to the needs of the bride throughout the service, for making sure that your dress is arranged properly and 'waiting' on you. It must be said that few actually wait on the bride as they should. You will pass your bouquet to the chief bridesmaid at the beginning of the service and if you wear a veil she may help remove it. Traditionally you made your vows with the veil over your face, in case the groom changed his mind!
He will be there to assist the Groom, not least in taking care of the ring(s). It is said that once, if the Groom failed to appear the Best Man was obliged to marry the Bride!
We usually use words such as 'love and cherish.' Traditionally the bride once said 'obey' and the groom promised to 'worship.'
Ushers and Seating
It is helpful if you provide two ushers who will welcome your guests and assist people as they arrive. Ushers should be present forty minutes before the wedding and distribute orders of service and buttonholes. They will also escort people to their seats. It is traditional for the family of the Groom to sit on the right side of church as you walk in, behind the Groom. The family of the Bride sit on the left, with a space saved for the person 'giving away' the bride. Increasingly this is a practice more honoured in the breach than in the observance and you may not wish to split the congregation in this way, especially if one family is very small.
Photographers and video
We are happy for you to have a video recording. We encounter difficulties with some of the companies used and we have been forced to make restrictions on filming to prevent weddings being ruined. Film crews running down the aisle in front of the bride, cameras being thrust over the shoulder of the Minister during vows, large floodlights and umbrellas being erected at the front of the church, these are just some of the problems encountered before filming was curtailed!
Prior contact must be made with the church office by the company concerned so that they understand that that we do not want your wedding turned in a fiasco to satisfy their creative juices. There is no charge made for allowing the video filming to take place. We hope that you will realise that the reasons for this are to ensure that your wedding is a very special day you will remember and not spoiled by insensitive behaviour.
We do allow photographers in church but it is expected that the photographer will contact the church office prior to the service to discuss arrangements. A professional photographer using more than one camera will not need to use flash and will be unobtrusive. Once the service has begun it is difficult to stop disruption, but the verger will intervene if a photographer acts unreasonably in a way that disrupts your service.
You may decide to use one or two rings, it has become increasingly popular for both partners to be given a ring. There are appropriate vows for whatever you decide.
Signing of the registers
This takes place in the church either in the middle or at the end of the service. After the signing the photographer will normally want you to pose for some special photographs. The Minister will issue a marriage certificate which will be signed by both of you and two witnesses whom you will appoint. They must be over 18.
Length of the service
We allow about an hour for the service which includes time for the taking of photographs outside afterwards or inside the church if it is raining. Please do not be late as we will not allow a late service to interfere with another booking of the Church Centre and the Minister may have other appointments. If you arrive more late than is customary fora bride then the minister may need to decide not to proceed or shorten the service accordingly.
This may be thrown by your guests outside the church. Usually the photographer is the one to give permission, so as not to spoil his photographs!!
Orders of service
Some people have their own orders of service printed. This would have the hymns included and it maybe a good 'keepsake' afterwards. The church has facilities to produce an order of service using different coloured or white card, and several designs are available. Samples are available to see, the cost is 65p each. You may also like to include a special item in the service. Please entrust your orders of service to a reliable person as they often arrive late having been locked in a car boot or forgotten.
What music should I choose?
Most people prefer traditional wedding music as the bride enters and leaves the church - however our organists are accomplished musicians and very happy to vary music according to your wishes. One of our organists will telephone you prior to the wedding to discuss arrangements with you. Permission may be given for you to provide your own organist, however please note that the payment of usual fees to the church for the use of the organ will still be required. Please do choose hymns yourself, perhaps with the advice of the organist, two or three would be normally be suitable. A list is attached with some suggestions but it is only to help and not meant to limit your choice. We are happy to use the church printing facilities to produce a copy of a hymn to enable you to include your choice. There is no charge for this and the church has copyright permission which will cover your wedding.
Hymns and Music
Choosing hymns can be difficult and also music to enter, leave and during the signing of the registers . Please speak with the minister and we will give you help in making choices which are perfect for you. Our organist is usually very happy to meet with you and play through some tunes
Hire of premises for wedding parties
St. Mark's Church is not available for hire for weddings however we will be pleased to recommend facilities in the Bedford area if you have difficulty finding a suitable venue.
The Ten Commandments !
Here are some important things you MUST not forget
For a Church of England wedding when one partner lives outside the Parish, arrange for the banns to be read in their local Church of England Parish Church - then show certificate to the Minister performing the service.
Decide if you wish to have orders of service printed by the church and inform Minister. If you are having your own printed outside the church make sure they arrive on time, frequently they do not!
Make sure you have spoken with the organist as soon as possible after contacting the Minister, discuss with them your hymns and music. Book now so that they do not book their holidays etc. on your wedding date.
Contact Miss Marion Prior about flowers as soon as possible to tell them what you are doing
Tell the Minister immediately if any circumstances change - such as your address.
Ensure video and photographer have contacted Minister for instructions.
Pay your deposit as soon as possible, the wedding is not confirmed in the church diary until this is done. You must also pay for service prior to
wedding - very important!
Keep in touch with us before the wedding we like to hear how things are going. Telephone to arrange the rehearsal with Minister to take place the week before the wedding.
We hope that this information will be of use to you. If there are any details which you are not sure about then please contact the Ministers who will be pleased to discuss your arrangements with you.
St. Mark's Church Centre Office (Open 9.00am - 5.00pm)
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